Gay Marriage and the Cheney Sisters
What constitutes an attack on the family?

Liz (left) and Mary Cheney


Dennis Prager

Blogger Andrew Sullivan:

I would like to respond on behalf of Mary and Heather and the rest of us: f*** [Sullivan, of course, spelled out the word] your compassion. . . . You cannot publicly attack your own sister’s family and say you love her as well. It does not compute.

On Anderson Cooper’s CNN program, Sullivan repeated these themes and was echoed by fellow left-wing panelists Peter Beinart and Jeffrey Toobin.

The hatred of the Left on this issue is matched only by the superficiality of their arguments.

Let’s get this straight: It is not throwing people under the bus to disagree with a relative — even if the relative lives out something you oppose.

Some questions for Mr. Bruni, Ms. Dowd, Mr. Robinson, Mr. Sullivan, Mr. Beinart, and Mr. Toobin:

1. Imagine a person who opposes unwed motherhood (that is, single women voluntarily getting pregnant). Further imagine that this person has an unwed sister who did get pregnant and is now an unwed mother. Do you deny that such a person can love their sister even while opposing unwed motherhood? Or do you believe that if one loves a family member, one must cease holding any conviction that runs against that family member’s behavior? That continuing to hold that conviction means throwing the family member under the bus?

2. Do you believe that it is morally acceptable for all gays to stop speaking to their siblings — one of the worst things a person can do to a sibling and to one’s parents — solely because the sibling believes in the man-woman definition of marriage? Or do you only defend Mary Cheney’s decision to cut off relations with her sister because you hate the Cheneys?

3. When a Jewish or Catholic parent or sibling speaks out against interfaith marriage, should the intermarried member of the family stop speaking to that parent or sibling?

I have received numerous e-mails from parents and siblings of gays who have completely cut off communications with their parents and siblings solely because those parents and siblings oppose same-sex marriage. In my view, this decision to shatter one’s family over this issue is the real immorality here.

The support of Bruni, Dowd, Robinson, Sullivan, Beinart, and Toobin for this shattering of families by gay family members is not only morally wrong. It is frightening. Clearly, for them it is not enough for parents and siblings to show their gay family member love — and even celebrate their gay relative’s family — they must also permanently shut their mouths.

This is not only left-wing hatred. It is left-wing totalitarianism: Your good and kind behavior is completely insufficient. You must also speak and think as we do.

Or we will destroy you.

Dennis Prager is a nationally syndicated radio talk-show host and columnist. His most recent book is Still the Best Hope: Why the World Needs American Values to Triumph. He is the founder of Prager University and may be contacted at


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