K-Lo, I enjoyed your retweet on the “four horsemen” that kill marriages: contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
The author urges married folks to seek counseling earlier, but many marriage counselors can really be divorce counselors. If you want a therapist who is committed to helping you stay married, check out this website.
The author, William Doherty, is a unitarian liberal, by the way. But he really believes in marriage and understands the damage an incompetent therapist can do.