When I read Lee Habeeb’s piece I was struck by the extent to which the pro-life movement is already doing almost all that he recommends. Yet we are still loathed by the MSM, the cultural elite, and the guardians of low-brow pop culture. In fact, the more compassionate we are, the more we are slandered.
For example, pro-lifers have built a network of crisis pregnancy centers across the country. These centers don’t hector and judge women but instead accept them, embrace them, and teach them about alternatives to abortion — including helping them connect with adoption agencies or with Christian and secular charities that can help a struggling, poor mom feed, clothe, and educate her child. Yet these centers are loathed by the Left — even to the point of passing ordinances to suppress their free-speech rights. My colleagues at the ACLJ are even now fighting hard to protect the fundamental First Amendment freedoms of crisis pregnancy centers in New York City.
Or let’s consider Focus on the Family, perhaps the Left’s most-loathed Christian organization. It’s successful “Wait No More” effort connects Christian families with adoption-eligible foster children in state after state. Does that improve Focus’s image with the likes of CNN or the New York Times? It would only if they also dropped their objection to abortion and same-sex marriage.
For more than 40 years, the pro-life community has been plagued with the argument that we care more for kids before they’re born than after. This argument has always been manifestly, provably false. With our money and our time, Christians give far, far more to poor families at home and abroad than they ever give to fight the culture war. As I’ve noted before, the budget of just one Christian relief agency, Samaritan’s Purse, is larger than the budget of every major Christian culture war organization combined. Yet Franklin Graham, the founder of Samaritan’s Purse, is one of the Left’s great bogeymen.
On an individual level, even Christian families that adopt — especially those who adopt across racial lines — can face scorn (and not from white rednecks). My wife and I learned that first-hand when she made the mistake of granting a short (and she thought light-hearted) interview with a Huffington Post reporter at last year’s CPAC. Many of the comments — predictably — were simply appalling. And those comments haven’t stopped, with Facebook and other messages telling her that she simply can’t and shouldn’t parent our own daughter. This is hardly a new phenomenon. In 1994, the National Association of Black Social Workers even called transracial adoption “cultural genocide.”
It took me a long time to realize the following truth: No matter how compassionate, charitable, winsome, and kind you are, if you oppose the sexual revolution you are the enemy. And in many ways, you’re not merely the political “enemy,” you’re also a reprehensible human being. Ann Coulter was on to something when she said on Red Eye that modern culture (and our president, apparently) can forgive Korean pop sensation Psy for rapping his hopes that American soldiers (and their families) die painful deaths, but had he rapped against gay marriage he would never be forgiven.
I like many of Lee’s ideas regarding adoption, but mostly because I love adoption. I agree that Christians should be full of love (biblically understood — not as defined by People magazine) in our interactions with our fellow man — but let’s not expect it to make a dime’s bit of difference to the cultural elite and their allied guardians of pop culture. In fact, I would expect they would treat us even worse.