The New York Times is having some week. First Amy Richards. Now Barbara Ehrenreich. Today, Ehrenreich takes pride in her two abortions. This is a remarkable piece. I suspect if you are reading this and have had an abortion during your life and regret it, you will most especially be pained and angered by the sentiments expressed. Here’s some of it:
But what makes it morally more congenial to kill a particular “defective” fetus than to kill whatever fetus happens to come along, on an equal opportunity basis? Medically informed “terminations” are already catching heat from disability rights groups, and, indeed, some of the conditions for which people are currently choosing abortion, like deafness or dwarfism, seem a little sketchy to me. I’ll still defend the right to choose abortion in these cases, even if it isn’t the choice I’d make for myself.
It would be unfair, though, to pick on the women who are in denial about aborting “defective” fetuses. At least 30 million American women have had abortions since the procedure was legalized, mostly for the kind of reasons that anti-abortion people dismiss as “convenience” – a number that amounts to about 40 percent of American women. Yet in a 2003 survey conducted by a pro-choice group, only 30 percent of women were unambivalently pro-choice, suggesting that there may be an appalling number of women who are willing to deny others the right that they once freely exercised themselves.
Honesty begins at home, so I should acknowledge that I had two abortions during my all-too-fertile years. You can call me a bad woman, but not a bad mother. I was a dollar-a-word freelancer and my husband a warehouse worker, so it was all we could do to support the existing children at a grubby lower-middle-class level. And when it comes to my children – the actual extrauterine ones, that is – I was, and remain, a lioness.
Choice can be easy, as it was in my case, or truly agonizing. But assuming the fetal position is not an appropriate response. Sartre called this “bad faith,” meaning something worse than duplicity: a fundamental denial of freedom and the responsibility that it entails. Time to take your thumbs out of your mouths, ladies, and speak up for your rights. The freedoms that we exercise but do not acknowledge are easily taken away.
Read the whole thing here.