I’ve been happily married for 21 years. Ten years ago, my husband suffered a debilitating disease that keeps us from making love. Four years ago, I bumped into an ex-lover, himself married, and began a sexual relationship, reawakening my sexual feelings. Neither of us would ever divorce. I’m sure I can keep this relationship secret, so my husband will not get hurt. My devout Catholicism forbids such an affair, but does secular ethics? Anonymous
Perhaps only a parochial Catholic (but not a “devout” one?) would see a married woman having sex with a married man who is not her husband as mere “dicey territory,” as the NYTimes Mag’s “The Ethicist” views it–but…yeah…I don’t think so.
Is there no one at the NYTimes who looks and says: Hey, wait a second–most Americans don’t actually agree with what this guy is saying. Most people actually believe in right and wrong.
What silly questions I ask.