“Derb—The banner with the star on it is used to represent a child in the
service, not necessarily killed. My dad has one and his son (my brother) is
fortunately still among the living.”
“Dear Mr. Derbyshire—The banner appears to have a blue star, which
indicates a relative serving in the military. Gold stars indicate the
serviceman died in action. Perhaps she was presented with the flag at her
loved one’s funeral after he had lived a long & happy life.”
Thank you for the elucidation.