You want to see a perfect example of the contradictions of the post-feminist era? Take a look at the Bridal Blog hosted by the New York Observer. Here we have self-assured, I-have-a-career, I-would-never-take-my-husband’s-name New York women going on and on and on about how big their engagement ring is, how much stuff they got at their bridal showers, and in general carrying on with a kind of open, unabashed, and amazing crass materialism that would have been anathema to their own, presumably less enlightened mothers and grandmothers. It’s pretty interesting.