One bisexual woman is complaining that rampant “biphobia” in our society is making the Orlando shooting very hard for her — because in its aftermath, people are just talking about the gay community and not enough about people like her.

Elle Dowd explains that she has a “high femme gender presentation” and is married to a “cishet man,” and kissing him “produces no hateful response from society” — and that therefore, people don’t understand how “queer” she is.

She further explains that this is very, very hard:

“Too gay to be straight, too straight to be gay, we are often locked out of the resources and support meant for the queer community due to biphobia and erasure while being pornified and objectified by the patriarchal male gaze of heteronormative culture,” she writes in her piece, titled “Biphobia and the Pulse Massacre.”

“I do not have to worry that when I hold my spouse’s hand in public that someone will beat me … But the horrible thing about ‘passing privilege’ is the closeting, the erasure,” she continues. “And never have I felt that so keenly as I feel it today while I mourn Orlando.”

Dowd says that “that’s where the guilt enters in. The deep, deep isolating guilt that comes from internalized bi-phobia,” which she claims has forced her to ask herself questions like “Am I gay enough to be this upset?” and “Am I appropriating the grief of real gay people?”

“On top of the pain and grief of loss, on top of the ‘that could’ve been me, that could’ve been my friends,’ on top of the psychological terror, there’s also the sinking feeling of self-doubt,” she writes.

#related#She then goes on to reach out very specifically to of all of the very specific different groups who she worries might feel “erased” post-Orlando because they feel like they don’t fit into the gay community: “Bisexual people, pansexual people, polysexual people, any non monosexual people,” “Asexual people, intersex people, people who are often left out when we say LGBTQ+ or even QUILTBAG but really mean just gay and lesbian,” “Trans people, when your achievements and contributions to leading this movement are ignored, when the poster child for Gayness is a middle class smiling White Cis Gay Man with a Family,” “Queer and/or trans person of color, when your struggles are pink washed and the Rainbow Industrial Complex ignores you,” “Undocumented queer people [who feel marginalized] when white gay people say abolishing ICE is not part of our Gay Agenda,” “Latinx queer people,” and “Black trans performers.”

Wow. Unbelievable, right? I know, I can’t believe she forgot “Latinx trans performers,” either. So insensitive.