I’ve been interrupted over this last week by events: Iowa and Vermont. The National Organization for Marriage (my organization) stepped up the release of a new ad, “Gathering Storm,” which provoked an energetic response from the Human Rights Campaign. “Lies and Bigots” is the short, honest summary of the attack. I really think it makes my point more eloquently than I could. I could be wrong about this ad. Anyone could be wrong. But I’m not lying; I’m really concerned.

Here I am debating Joe Solomonese of the Human Rights Campaign. Watch Joe and ask yourself: What happens to folks who believe marriage means a husband and wife if he has his way? Let me add for the record: I think there are many other possibilities and desires out there other than Joe’s. I know most gay-marriage supporters would be far more generous about what gay marriage means.

But law is blunt instrument: Can we begin by some candor and honesty about what gay marriage will mean for folks who disagree?

Prof. Doug Laycock blames marriage supporters for not reaching out more. There’s a case for that.

But watch Joe and ask yourself: Is he being candid about what gay marriage will mean for people who disagree with him?