In Nadya Suleman’s interview with Ann Curry, the single IVF mom of 14 explains her decisions: “I just longed for certain connections and attachments with another person that I–I really lacked, I believe, growing up.”

I wish them all well, and hope that this story is a little bit of a wake-up call. All too often, sex and kids are all about me–and not the others who are involved. I want a baby. I want to know what it feels like to be a father. But what about the responsibilities? Are you up for them? Are you thinking of these things before you act?

(In the fictional realm, Private Practice last night had more than a few examples of this . . . The show is an interesting conversation-starter about the state of human dignity in our most intimate affairs, if nothing else.)

It’s easy to criticize Nadya Suleman. But the problems are much bigger than her household.