It’s been the talk of the New York parenting world, and finally the website Gawker has the full story. A woman in Park Slope, the extremely well-to-do crunchy neighborhood in Brooklyn, found a blue baby’s hat and sent out a “hey, did you lose your baby boy’s hat” message to a group e-mail list called Park Slope Parents. The first response was from an enraged gender-neutral mom named Lisa, who wrote: “what makes this a ‘boy’s hat’? Did you see the boy himself loose it? Or does the hat in question possess an unmistakable scent of testosterone? It’s innocent little comments like this that I find the most hurtful. What does this comment imply about the girl who chooses to wear just such a hat (or something like it)? Is she doing something wrong? Is there something wrong with her?”

The ensuing debate is beyond hilarious, and can be found here.